Men Get Praised Too Much For Existing

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Something I’ve noticed a lot when a lot of my friends talk about guys is how to the floor their standards are. “I want a guy who will treat me nicely!” “Any guy who isn’t a total asshole.” When a guy shows a common shred of decency to them they’ll gush about how sweet and well-mannered he is.

I actually read an opinion article on this on The Peak News a few weeks ago that I agree with wholeheartedly. It’s really not that a majority of my friends are super desperate and want a boyfriend that badly. A lot of girls (if not most) think similar thoughts. I do as well sometimes. Guys who are decent human beings seem amazing. It has to do a lot with how our society is traditionally driven and run by men, for men. In many cases, men are glorified for just existing. Society lowers standards so much for men that a guy who is nice, loyal and treats you – uh – not terribly is considered a rare GEM among all men when that’s just – how your partner should treat you?

Like The Peak article mentioned, I see this trend a lot on social media – girls posting about how their boyfriend bought them McDonald’s after work and thousands of people gushing in response about how they wish they had a boyfriend like that, how that girl is so lucky – because her boyfriend bought her fast food? After a long day of work? I’d do that for a lot of my friends and family, and I’m sure a lot of other people out there would as well. Isn’t the bar set a little too low?

Don’t get me wrong, I think gestures like that are totally sweet and should be appreciated – props to that guy for being a sweet boyfriend – but to that extent? If I do the dishes without being told does that make me the best daughter in the world? Are thousands of mothers across the world going to hashtag me #DaughterGoals and wish their daughters are like me? No, because that’s absolutely ridiculous, and you know it.

Tweets like these are kind of sad and showcase what I’m talking about.

How is it that the standards in these tweets for men are so low, yet so many of them fail to even meet these standards?

Since when was wanting to be loved by your significant other considered needy?

I’m putting this post in my ‘lifestyle’ tag because I feel like this is an important thing for a lot of girls to live their life knowing – men really aren’t all that. A lot of my friends would date guys who would treat them badly, show them up all the time ‘but it was ok cause he’s nice to me!’

It makes me sad seeing as so many girls undervalue themselves all for a boy who (excuse my language) doesn’t do shit, and you can see how that culture of thought is perpetuated through social media.

Go ahead and do yourself a favour: date a guy who doesn’t expect to be praised for doing the bare minimum.

2 thoughts on “Men Get Praised Too Much For Existing”

  1. First of all, let’s address the elephant in the room– pitter patter, let’s get at ‘er. Who am I? Why am I here? Jeez Louise, you ask a lot of questions, but you still want me to tell you anyway? No prob, Bob. Here’s the plan, Stan:

    I found many lists of ‘dad phrases’ on the interwebs, so I thought outside the box and thought I should get the ball rolling by assaulting you with all of them, combined. So bless your heart for listening.

    After you left us today, thankfully it hasn’t been blowing up a storm all the way until the cows come home. Even so, as long as I have my friends, that problem is no bigger than a minnow in a fishing pond. Heavens to Betsy! I’ve already been going on for a while! But hush your mouth and hold your horses, I may be too big for my britches, but I’ve got gumption and I’m going to finish this. And at the end of the day, we’ll all leave feeling accomplished.

    But I’ve been going on on a tangent, so let’s get back to the drawing board and get the ball rolling. Wow, Joe Anne Yie just looked at me when she said “I don’t drink coffee.” She just threw me under the bus– for some low hanging fruit no less.

    Man, this exercise is really making me think outside the box and touch base with my creative self. But honestly, this was a no brainer since it was on my radar for a while. You know what? This is going well and I am par for the course. I hope you feel like you’re getting the bang for your buck. Ash Lee, is telling me to do some work, “I can imagine you panicking,” she says. Well, little does she know, this situation is a win-win, because I’ve tired myself out from all that 167 code and had too much on my plate, so this is just a relaxing activity for me.

    Uh oh, spaghetti-Os, this is getting long. I don’t have the bandwidth to keep going, no way, Jose… but there is hope. I just need to tell myself that this is go-time. My mind has to be told: wakey, wakey, eggs and bakey!

    Anyways, I’m sure at this point nothing is making sense and you’re just there like, “What’s up, Buttercup? What’s the story, Dory?” and I can tell you that there is no story, because I will not go back and edit this cause it is not easy peezy lemon squeezy at all and someone who thinks otherwise is a liar liar, pants on fire.

    See you later Alligator.
    P.S. He who smelt it, dealt it– and they probably are sitting criss-cross applesauce.

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